1. Starting profiles or correspondence with "God, this is so
hard! What do I say about myself?" If it's that hard, it doesn't
bode well for the future…..
2. Beginning chat on sites with "Hi, do you fancy a chat?".
Women often get inundated with correspondence, so something
which stands out from the rest is needed.
3. Being overly sexual in tone at the very first exchange - "I'd
love fish pie for dinner" is NOT the way to attract a lifelong
mate.
4. Having a man completely ignore the profile you've spent hours
preparing, and him writing "Wow! You're gorgeous, tell me about
yourself and what you do" - it's fine to offer compliments, but
there's a danger that she'll think you're just after her for her
body if you don't do her the courtesy of reading her profile (
yeah, we know you're only interested in her body, but play the
game a little! :)).
5. Being asked to say why you've declined the advances of a man
who's ugly, with no personality or prospects, doing so under
duress (politely of course) then him being pissed because he's
been given the truth!.....if you can't stand the heat…..don't
ask!!
6. Men who don't bother to write anything about themselves, don'
t post photos, then complain that they never get any responses
from women - like what is she supposed to go on?
7. Men who don't bother to write anything about themselves, and
expect women to "interview" them; "right, what do you want/need
to know about me?" It's supposed to
be fun guys, not about
presenting for a job!
8. Cut-and-paste jobs…especially when the joins show!.
9. Being pestered after you've made it clear you aren't
interested.
10. Being dumped with no explanation of what you did or said
that was so wrong……
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