"I prayed for twenty years but received no answer until I prayed with my legs."Frederick Douglass
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Finances And Marriage
Money is one of the most important areas of possible arguments in marriage and is without fail among the top four reasons for divorce. Furthermore, having a lot of money does not exempt couples from the pressure of dealing with money. Financial issues ...
He Still Hasn't Popped the Question. Should You Give Him an Ultimatum?
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The Secret To Success In Courtship And Marriage, Sex And Happiness (Part 5)
Those who are very young when they marry have three strikes against them . --PROFESSOR MARCIA LASSWELL. Are you ready for marriage? Hold your answer until you know whether you are ...
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One Saturday, I left the shop a little early so that I could change clothes and make it across town in time to officiate a wedding. It was for a very sweet, young couple we know.
I was reminded of the time not long ago when Sherry and I celebrated our 50th wedding anniversary. Though we've only been married 35 years, we’d heard so much about the 50th anniversary that we decided to go ahead and celebrate it in advance. We had one grand celebration. We went on a cruise and everything.
Having actually been married 35 years, and being recognized by the state as an officiant; I thought maybe I was qualified to give a little marital advice during the ceremony. I considered telling them that had they lived in the 1500's they would have been about a month early for the wedding. Back then they took their annual baths in May and got married in June. Thus, the popularity of June weddings. I decided the bride and groom didn't need to know that.
What I did tell them was about the young man who went to the father of his intended to ask for his daughter's hand in marriage. The old gentleman fixed his eyes on his future son-in-law and asked, "Well, son, do you like
her?"
"I love her," he said.
The wise old fellow had a very direct reply. "I didn't ask you if you love her. I asked you if you like her." He explained the difference.
He explained, as I did during the ceremony, that falling in love is one thing. Being lifetime friends and companions is quite another. Falling in love is largely the result of physical attraction, and is natural. To stay in love we must learn to like each other. That can be a bit more of a challenge than attraction, because it requires an ongoing exercise of maturity. It doesn’t just come naturally.
BARBER-OSOPHY: If a relationship lasts it's usually because those involved have worked at liking each other.
Copyright 2004, Sumerlin Enterprises.
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About the Author
Terry L. Sumerlin, known as the Barber-osopher, is the author of "Barber-osophy," is a columnist for the San Antonio Business Journal and speaks nationally as a humorist/motivational speaker.
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